THE FIRST THING TO UNDERSTAND IS THIS: Child Protective Services DOES NOT REALLY CARE ABOUT THE CHILDREN! Now you know why they do the mean things they do.
THE SECOND THING TO UNDERSTAND IS: CPS only cares about FUNDING. This is what drives them to do ANYTHING.
My top ten list of advice and information:
1. STAY CALM AND COLLECTED. When you yell, argue, and/or make threats of any kind, they have the ammunition to accuse you of being violent and/or claim that the children would not be safe in a “volatile environment”. Always be polite and courteous to everyone who has anything to do with your case. Yelling and arguing only incites them to make up more crap about you and an excuse to refuse to return your children. When I say be polite and courteous, I mean play it up big by saying things like, “Thank you so much for your help and concern with the welfare of my family. I really appreciate everything that the Department is doing for us. We strive to become better parents, regardless of how. We are learning a lot and are dedicated to completing our case plan.” YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MEAN IT! I know how you really feel about them. This is normal. Heck, if I said all the things I thought about social workers, well, I would have a lot of problems to deal with. That is all I will say. My mom always used to say, “Kill them with kindness.” Best advice she ever gave me yet, in this situation, I understand how difficult it is to do. However, it is well worth the efforts as this has a great deal to do with if and when they return your child(ren). This is not a guarantee but it is very important that your social worker LIKES YOU.
2. Stop fighting them. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU CAN NOT BEAT THEM IN COURT – EVER! What I mean by that is this: The case will not be dismissed for lack of evidence. It will NOT be dismissed once you prove your innocence. It just will not happen so let’s move on. [ALTHOUGH IT IS POSSIBLE IF A BRAVE LAWYER OR GROUP OF LAWYERS HAS ENOUGH YOU-KNOW-WHAT TO PRESENT A DEFENSE THAT EXPOSES THE ABUNDANT CODES, STATUTES AND REGULATORY ACTS WHICH ARE VIOLATED IN EVERY CASE. If every parent hired a private attorney or if there was a program through the BAR Association where pro bono services were provided to defendants in Juvenile Dependency cases, the court cohorts would not be able to collaborate and collect our kids for cash!] However, there is a lawyer named Vincent Davis who has been educating and preparing parents and guardians for court.
When I say stop fighting them, I do not mean that you shouldn’t get objections on the record. This is extremely important for appeal. So, file a Declaration or Objections to the Detention or similar document that clearly objects to the false allegations, the fabricated evidence and the perjury the social worker has made and submitted to the court in the form of written testimony (the Detention Report and or any other report the county has filed).There are things you can prove with providing your “attorney” proof of in the form of documents and testimony. This may alleviate requirements of some of their case plan programs but it will not get your case dismissed.
Once you get your children back and the case CLOSED, you can and should sue them. But check your local and state rules regarding claims against a government agency. You may have to file an administrative complaint FIRST. A Federal 42 U.S.C. Section 1983 complaint for violating your 14th Amendment rights and your child’s 4th Amendment rights is a good way to go however, it is not the only way.
3. .Complete the case plan without complaining or arguing. If you don’t feel you should have to go to any Domestic Violence classes, you need to tell your lawyer to negotiate that requirement if there has been no domestic violence. YOU CAN BARGAIN WITH CPS but you must get it approved by a CPS supervisor and/or the Court.
4. GET EVERY PROMISE IN WRITING. Whether it is to place your children with family, increase your visits, close your case early, or to relieve you from drug testing, write up a promise agreement and have them sign it.
5. RECORD AND DIARY EVERYTHING. Al;ways make sure to get names, dates and times or every communication with CPS and your lawyer. This will be particularly beneficial when you sue them as well as be able to politely disagree with social workers when they tell you something different that they told you previously.
6. NEVER MISS A VISIT WITH YOUR CHILDREN. EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO START WALKING THE NIGHT BEFORE, GET THERE SOMEHOW. IF YOU MISS A VISIT THEY COULD TAKE YOUR VISITS AWAY BY SAYING THAT YOU HAVE NO INTEREST IN VISITING.
7. If you do need to complain, do it in writing and send copies to those in higher positions. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO WRITE TO THE DEPARTMENT’S DIRECTOR! This will ALWAYS GET THEIR ATTENTION and most times your complaint is duly acknowledged and something is corrected.
8. IF THE ALLEGATIONS WERE EVEN SLIGHTLY TRUE, STOP THE BEHAVIOR PERMANENTLY. If they said you were doing drugs, STOP USING DRUGS! If they said there was domestic violence and it is true, EITHER FIGURE OUT A WAY TO GET ALONG OR SEPARATE. When you can’t prove you were not on drugs or that there was no domestic violence, the quickest way to get the children returned is to separate immediately and make sure that CPS has NO KNOWLEDGE OR SUSPICIONS THAT YOU BOTH ARE COMMUNICATING. That means do not talk on the phone, do not email, do not meet them in public places during the day. Make sure when you do talk or see one another that you are not followed. Take extra precautions to ensure that whatever actions you have taken to convince CPS that the children are or will be “safe” stays that way according to them. WHAT THEY DO NOT KNOW WILL NOT HURT YOU. Also, do not tell anyone anything different than what you tell CPS.
9. Always file an appeal regardless of what your “attorney” says. You never know what the appellate court will be able to argue. However, you MUST GET OBJECTIONS ON THE RECORD!
10. ,MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE FOSTER MOTHER/FATHER. This can prove to be your most valuable ally.
You can do all of the things they still railroad their way through and there is no justice in these evil systems. They want to be in charge over people lives especially African Americans and minority people, one thing for sure justification will come at the end of this world and there is a place for them called the Fiery Furnace and that is when we all will receive justice from the unjust, I have something to wait and look forward to. HELP IS ON THE WAY, Let me hear all who have been wrong say this. When you can not afford an attorney, they just court appoint anyone and they really don’t care, In my case my appellant attorney Josh Clover filed and appeal and there never was an appeal for me, and they say he did nothing wrong. Liars and cheaters recognize each others, so in the furnace they can scream together and hold hands and there is no cover up.
I am trying to get custody of my daughters sibling in foster care thru riverside county, but CP’s is trying to adopt this Lil girl out and permanently separate these sisters… Can an one help?? Advice? Guide me in any , I’d really appreciate it!!
my kids were taken by cps it all started when i had
my baby when I brought him home he had a hard time keeping formula
down I tried everything different formula bottles an I took him to
doctor cps came said he needed go to Loma Linda I did that an they
state I had a hard time waking for feedings I always woke up yes I was
drained an tired I literally only got like 2 hours sleep a day trying
my best be there for my baby their claiming I starved him an didn’t
give him medical attention I did everything I could went out purchased special bottles differant formulas they said i tested positive on a drug test at my doctors office while pregnant so went an collected all my medical records an each one reads negitive two days after removal baby was admited in hospital an diagnosed with acid reflux that is the real cause of him not being able thrive not because i neglected or abused him or failed get up an feed him an because I had a
child 10 years ago I didn’t reunite with they are trying to deny me
reunification services truth is I was a child 10 years ago I felt back
then at that time my child was better off I did what I thought was
best for child then but I love my kids an are willing do anything for
them now it has only been 2 months an they are trying adopt out my 9
year old my appointed attorney don’t help please I can’t lose my
babies please say you can help me I have a court date coming up I
don’t know what to do their about to adopt out my son
—
Deidra Parker I’m located in San Bernardino County
I am praying that you find the help you need because I am a 62 year old grandmother, and my rights to my grandchildren were taken by a complete racist group of people including my own court appointed attorney who became the county attorney right after the jury made a decision to terminate my husband and I rights. The supervisor of CPS and the foster parent had the nerve to show up at my father’s funeral, this was so disrespectful, the lawyer for the children was on the case when I adopted my grandchildren, then she turned around after I had them for three years and played double jeopardy with their lives. The foster parents had abused those children, they ran away from their home and the authorities placed them with my youngest daughter and CPS did not investigate this; they just returned those children back to that foster home, not the fourteen year old girl is pregnant and that woman tells the children that they were a mistake and she don’t want them in her house. The oldest child has lost her eye, placed in foster home to foster and raped, prostituted out and CPS is covering all of it up, The Government system is so fake and prejudiced , but not to worry because there is a Heaven and Hell and believe me all those dirty thing they have done will soon be in the fire uncovered by the Great One. l live in Texas and this was in Brenham, Texas. I written to almost everyone possible; and has never received an answer. These un-repented people can not understand why God give us our families to enjoy before we leave earth. Women are so disrespected by the system, because it a woman who had to give them their lives.
I have this worker an he was supposed to come out an look at my house so my kids can come home well he has rescheduled 3 times now an I can never reach him an his supervisor don’t do anything well yesterday I had cancel few appointments to be here an he never even showed up he didn’t even bother to call I put in grievances before an nothing my permanency hearing is in a few weeks what should I do about this I have worked so hard to make it to this point my kids were taken over a year ago an only thing they had to go on to keep them was my background that is over a decade old because the original reason for removal wasn’t good enough
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You can do all of the things they still railroad their way through and there is no justice in these evil systems. They want to be in charge over people lives especially African Americans and minority people, one thing for sure justification will come at the end of this world and there is a place for them called the Fiery Furnace and that is when we all will receive justice from the unjust, I have something to wait and look forward to. HELP IS ON THE WAY, Let me hear all who have been wrong say this. When you can not afford an attorney, they just court appoint anyone and they really don’t care, In my case my appellant attorney Josh Clover filed and appeal and there never was an appeal for me, and they say he did nothing wrong. Liars and cheaters recognize each others, so in the furnace they can scream together and hold hands and there is no cover up.
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Thank u so much for your advice it helps a lot.
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I am trying to get custody of my daughters sibling in foster care thru riverside county, but CP’s is trying to adopt this Lil girl out and permanently separate these sisters… Can an one help?? Advice? Guide me in any , I’d really appreciate it!!
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my kids were taken by cps it all started when i had
my baby when I brought him home he had a hard time keeping formula
down I tried everything different formula bottles an I took him to
doctor cps came said he needed go to Loma Linda I did that an they
state I had a hard time waking for feedings I always woke up yes I was
drained an tired I literally only got like 2 hours sleep a day trying
my best be there for my baby their claiming I starved him an didn’t
give him medical attention I did everything I could went out purchased special bottles differant formulas they said i tested positive on a drug test at my doctors office while pregnant so went an collected all my medical records an each one reads negitive two days after removal baby was admited in hospital an diagnosed with acid reflux that is the real cause of him not being able thrive not because i neglected or abused him or failed get up an feed him an because I had a
child 10 years ago I didn’t reunite with they are trying to deny me
reunification services truth is I was a child 10 years ago I felt back
then at that time my child was better off I did what I thought was
best for child then but I love my kids an are willing do anything for
them now it has only been 2 months an they are trying adopt out my 9
year old my appointed attorney don’t help please I can’t lose my
babies please say you can help me I have a court date coming up I
don’t know what to do their about to adopt out my son
—
Deidra Parker I’m located in San Bernardino County
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I am praying that you find the help you need because I am a 62 year old grandmother, and my rights to my grandchildren were taken by a complete racist group of people including my own court appointed attorney who became the county attorney right after the jury made a decision to terminate my husband and I rights. The supervisor of CPS and the foster parent had the nerve to show up at my father’s funeral, this was so disrespectful, the lawyer for the children was on the case when I adopted my grandchildren, then she turned around after I had them for three years and played double jeopardy with their lives. The foster parents had abused those children, they ran away from their home and the authorities placed them with my youngest daughter and CPS did not investigate this; they just returned those children back to that foster home, not the fourteen year old girl is pregnant and that woman tells the children that they were a mistake and she don’t want them in her house. The oldest child has lost her eye, placed in foster home to foster and raped, prostituted out and CPS is covering all of it up, The Government system is so fake and prejudiced , but not to worry because there is a Heaven and Hell and believe me all those dirty thing they have done will soon be in the fire uncovered by the Great One. l live in Texas and this was in Brenham, Texas. I written to almost everyone possible; and has never received an answer. These un-repented people can not understand why God give us our families to enjoy before we leave earth. Women are so disrespected by the system, because it a woman who had to give them their lives.
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I have this worker an he was supposed to come out an look at my house so my kids can come home well he has rescheduled 3 times now an I can never reach him an his supervisor don’t do anything well yesterday I had cancel few appointments to be here an he never even showed up he didn’t even bother to call I put in grievances before an nothing my permanency hearing is in a few weeks what should I do about this I have worked so hard to make it to this point my kids were taken over a year ago an only thing they had to go on to keep them was my background that is over a decade old because the original reason for removal wasn’t good enough
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